I’m not the most positive person in the world. In fact, I tend to see the worst in every situation before seeing the good. Part of me wants to tell you that I’m simply being realistic, that by looking at the worst case scenario I can prepare for it.
But let’s face it: Always looking at the worst case scenario can be crippling.
It can keep you from moving forward. And leave you trapped in your current situation with nowhere to turn too.
My partner is the polar opposite of me. He’s the kind of person that could stand in the middle of a complete disaster and find something to be thankful for. Believe me, as endearing as it seems it can also be infuriating!
But the truth is that his positive outlook on life has kept me sane more times than I can count. And has thought me that sometimes focusing on the positive can be just what you need to do to keep moving forward.
Here’s what I learned about focusing on the positive from my VERY positive partner:
There’s always a solution.
No matter how bleak the current state of things may seem it’s probably not as bad as you think it is. Things have a way of figuring themselves out and if you can find it in yourself to trust in that, then you can focus your energy on finding a solution.
You don’t need all of that to be happy.
In today’s world, we’re surrounded by a lot of stuff. And sometimes we might begin to believe that we need all of that to be happy, but that’s a lie. The truth is that we don’t need all those things to be happy. You can find happiness in the simplest of things and those are the moments you need to strive for.
If everything else fails you can always go back.
No matter what the adventure you’re currently undertaking is, you can always go back. You can go back to the office job, you can come home early. You can always return to your safe zone if your adventure doesn’t work out. But if you never leave your safe zone, you’ll never live!
And most important: It will probably be fine!
Most of the things you worry about will never happen, most of the problems you imagine will never come true. So remember this quote by Mark Twain and relax!
“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” – Mark Twain
I’m lucky to have a man in my life that keeps me positive. But staying positive is important for everyone, so tell me what keeps you positive?
I’m getting ready for a 10 day trip to Prague and the Czech Republic, It’s going to be fun and also a challenge it’s the first time I’m traveling since starting my business. So here are my travel essentials for having a great trip, no matter where you are going.
Travel Essentials that I couldn’t travel without:
An awesome backpack
Having a bag that you can carry comfortably and for a long time is important but you also want it to be practical so you can access all your important things easily. I’m absolutely in love with my Everyday Backpack from Peak Design, if you’re looking for a great bag for your travels this is it.
Extra energy (a power bank)
You know that it’s going to be a long day until you arrive at the hostel and the last thing you want is for your phone battery to die out. That’s why I got myself a power bank so that no matter what I can recharge my devices and stay connected to the world.
A great book
I’ll most likely be powering up during the flight and working but having a book with me is a must have for those moments where you just want a few minutes away from the screen to relax and rest.
I forgot these once. No headphones 6 hours of flight and I swear to god I almost went nuts. You don’t want to forget your headphones when you’re traveling, how else will you listen to your favorite podcasts?
These are a must! I once saw a woman boarding the plane with stilettos and all I kept asking myself was why? Why would you do that to yourself? You’re going to spend most of your day on them so find something comfy but not too hot that you can take to the airport without having to take them off at the security checkpoint.
So tell me what can’t you travel without? I’d love to hear your travel essentials!
Why are you doing this? How does it support your Happiness?
Wheather you’re building a business, starting a movement, or donating your time, I want you to ask yourself:
Why am I doing this?
That’s the real question, isn’t it? Whatever you are building in your life that’s the question you need to ask yourself.
Why are you doing this whole “entrepreneur” thing? If you don’t have a real good reason for doing it then I can almost guarantee that it will be hard to keep it up. Being an entrepreneur isn’t easy so before you continue down this amazing journey I want you to ask yourself: why?
My why’s are Freedom and Service. The freedom to explore the world, meet new people and have fun doing it. And the ability to serve other women and entrepreneurs in creating a better world together.
We all need more freedom in our lives, the freedom to live life on our own terms, to follow our dreams, and create a better future. And claiming that freedom for ourselves is the first step in making the world a better place. Or how Linda Coussement from How it is to Be You so brilliantly puts it:
“When we take responsibility for our own happiness we can through, bring happiness to the world as a whole.”
(I’m paraphrasing here, but don’t take my word for it visit her site to learn more)
What is your Why? Or better yet what would bring you happiness? And in doing so bring about a better world.
Just stop! I’m serious you need to stop saying to yourself and the world that you can’t figure stuff out. It is limiting your ability to grow and create a business that you’ll fall in love with.
Like the brilliant Marie Forleo says everything is figureoutable! You can figure it out!
Now don’t get me wrong, I know that some things can be hard. Some things are harder than others to learn and sifting through code to figure out how to get that youtube verified thing working can be frustrating. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn them! Or that you can’t figure it out!
When you say that you’ll never be able to figure out how to create a landing page for your business, or a Facebook ad or an email automation. You’re taking away your own power.
Here’s what I mean by that:
When you completely give up on learning a new skill you are closing yourself up to all that that learning experience would bring to you. Including realizing the full potential of this new tool and how you could fully use it.
Here’s the truth: if you really wanted to learn these things you could! What’s really happening is that you don’t want to invest the time to learn it. And that’s fine! In fact learning what to delegate and what to learn how to do yourself is the most important thing you’ll do for your business.
My point: Should you delegate? Yes definitely! Delegating is vital for your business! But never give away your power.
Always remember that you can always learn to do it yourself!
Have you ever had a dream that felt just out of reach?
Maybe because it’s too big, too scary, or just too hard.
I know just the feeling. I’ve been there too. But today’s post isn’t about delayed dreams. Today is about taking that big scary dream from our heart and bringing it into reality.
For years I have dreamed of road tripping across Europe. No real destination or time restraint. Just traveling and exploring this beautiful continent that I live in.
And for years I had delayed this dream.
But not anymore!
The time for delays is over. We took the plunge and dove head first into planning and making this dream happen. There were plenty of times when I doubted we’d ever get there, but now it’s official!
Our trip starts in 3 short months! And although there are still a million things to plan and prepare, I couldn’t be more excited!
I’ll still be working while I travel and my husband will be looking for odd jobs while trying to start his own business (send him some love over at talkyourmind.com)
In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you. What’s a big dream you’ve been delaying? And if you’ve ever gone on a road trip let me know your best tips and tricks.
We live in a world where we are always on, always connected. In a world so connected, it’s important to find the time to take a day off work. Having a no tech day and the constantly on world can be a game changer.
That’s why starting right now (actually I started yesterday) I’m taking Sunday’s off tech. One full day without any tech in my life. Sounds Crazy, right? I promise you it’s worth it.
What did I learn from my first No Tech Sunday?
Taking a day off is hard!
It’s hard to disconnect from the internet and all of your responsibilities for a full day. I really had to fight the urge to turn on the computer, or just check my email really quick.
You get to focus on what really matters
Without all the distractions of the internet, I got to enjoy the time with my friends and family. It was a great opportunity to connect with the people and pets I love.
You will get bored
It will happen, I promise. I started the day off fine but by 18 PM I was crazy bored! I’m sure I’ll get better at this as time goes by, but just be prepared to face the boredom.
Planning works best in a vacuum
For the past few weeks, I had been feeling overwhelmed and unsure of where to go next. Taking this time off of everything allowed me to take a deep breath and focus on where I want to go.
You’ll start the week with renewed energy
Monday never felt better! I had a clear idea and a draft of how to get there and so I got to start my Monday at full speed!
Who should do this? Everyone!
Seriously, if you spend most of your day connected to a screen then you NEED to do this! The time off will give you perspective and keep you centered as you go on to chase your dreams!
If you like this idea of taking some time off this tech world and doing a digital detox, then you need to check out Folk Rebellion. Jess Davis gave me the idea of doing a no tech Sunday after hearing about a Digital Detox from her.